Uncertainty has been a big theme for me in 2016 and something I've struggled with a lot. Turns out that many of the challenges of moving overseas and being in a foreign country are all things completely out of my control.
As a 'planner' (let's be honest, a control freak) and someone who loves knowing exactly how each detail is going to pan out - leaning in to the unknown was scary, unfamiliar and felt like I was walking on shaking ground, struggling to somehow find my balance.
After much resistance and playing out my need for certainty through unhealthy habits that were not serving me, I knew I needed to step-up and work on strengthening my foundation.
When we're faced with uncertainty we have two options: we can either resist what is happening or we can choose to lean in and completely allow ourselves to surrender, placing our faith in love (or God or the Universe, or whatever you believe in).
These 3 practices are a wonderful way to get grounded and get back to you -
Turn up the volume on self-care.
Through meditating, journalling and tuning-in, I’ve been able to refocus my energy and spend time doing things that truly fuel my soul.
Here are a few of my favorite journal prompts to help begin reconnecting with yourself -
- What am I currently resisting?
- What’s stopping me from showing up the way I want to?
- How does this fit into the vision I have for my life?
- What do I need to learn to create the life of my dreams?
Spend time in nature.
I spend the majority of my week in the city which, to be honest, I find incredibly draining. I miss the ocean immensely. So I make a point of escaping on the weekend and soaking up the beauty of Mother Nature which always has a calming effect.
Even if you don’t have the luxury of living close to nature and like me, live in the city - head to your local park and find a quiet bench. Soak up the open space around you; breathe in the stillness, and notice the air against your skin.
Tune into the present moment and be mindful thoughts, words and actions.
So often we spend time worrying about things that happened in the past or future events that haven’t even happened yet, but this is really a waste of energy. The only moment we have any power over is this one - right now.
Meditation has helped me to bring a greater awareness of when I'm getting caught up in the future, but I’ve also been using beautiful essential oil blends and mists as mindfulness reminders to be in the here right now, surrendering control over what happens in the future.
When negative thoughts or worries enter your mind, let go of the battle with them. Don't resist then, simply notice them and allow them to pass through your mind, like clouds floating across the sky and gently bring yourself back to this moment. It’s the only one that counts.
I hope these practice will support you to build an unshakable foundation for yourself. And remember, if you need extra support - reach out and ask for it. We were not meant to walk this journey alone.